"How did you hear about the youth group you're in?" That's one of the questions we asked some 20 Montgomery County young people at Wednesday's Youth Voices Roundtable, the third such event held by the county's Commission on Children and Youth of which I am a member. The answer, of course, was "from other kids" for the most part, and from adults personally inviting them into the programs, which ranged from support groups for the children of African, Latin and Asian immigrants to a school-based program for girls to a Jewish youth group. I Twittered a little bit during the event, which you can see in the left hand column here.
The young people sat in the middle of the room (a great space donated by Strathmore Hall) in a circle, with the adults (including the president of the county council, the head of the county's HHS, reps from the school board, etc.) sitting quiety in the back. The kids' conversation was moderated by three of their peers, high school students who are on the commission.
Our original goal several years ago was to learn from the youngsters. Then we discovered that they needed to talk to each other. And, it was clear from Wednesday's event that more of that is needed.
My main takes aways:
Several of the kids said that if their programs didn't exist they would be getting into trouble. One girl even pointed out that crime in her neighborhood has gone up since they closed the YMCA there. We really hope this got through the county big wigs.
We adults think kids are a lot more sophisticated and know more than they really do. One girl even admitted that she learned alot about the "bad things" that could happen to a girl in the world from her support group. With the Internet and TV and teenage attitude, many of us adults have been snowed into thinking kids don't need to be taught basic life skills. Wrong. Or as they say, fail. Yikes. More needs to be done on the basics.
So while the kids kept saying that they only learn from other kids, the conversation did come around to the fact that they need adults, as one boy smiling ly admitted, for organization, direction, knowledge and safety ... but we should be cool or invisible.
All of the kids were really impressive. As I noted in my Twitter comments, the Asian boys were late. When they arrived, one of the African American girls blurted out: "You're in high school? You look so young!" accompanied by some giggling. I was thinking, wow, here we go with steriotypes. But after the meeting, the young lady approached the young man, shook his hand and engaged in a conversation about their high school. Cool young lady!
It would have been interesting to hear more about their families and their perceptions of each other. I'm very curious about inter-ethnic dynamics in this age group. But time was limited. All in all, a great event.
On a personal note, I was also really impressed with the BBYO Jewish group and proud of how much my community does to help its teenagers, even though we are constantly feeling like its never enough.